Crystal Clear: People

Many people lack self-confidence and that can have a negative effect on a person's business and social life. There are many theories about why some people are more confident than others. It may may have to do in part with early conditioning and in part with natural personality. If you are low on self-confidence, an important thing to understand is that you can develop more self-confidence.

HOW TO BECOME MORE SELF CONFIDENT

1. Stand up straight. Although it sounds like a very simple thing, good posture alerts the body that things are okay and that you are confident. Others picking up on this visual clue may treat you better as well.

2. Dress better. This doesn't mean dressing up at home when you do not feel like dressing up, but taking some extra time to dress better and make sure you are well-groomed will make you feel more confident. Consider how you feel when going out in sloppy clothes versus how you feel when you know you look good. It is that simple.

3. Set small, step by step goals. When you break tasks into smaller steps, they doesn't seem as overwhelming, and each time you reach one of the goals, your confidence may grow. This applies to small day to day matters as well as to larger situations and goals, such as building a career.

4. Change your internal monologue. The internal monologue is that inner voice in our thoughts that tells us how we are or who we are. "What an idiot. I can't believe I just did that" is an example of a typical negative statement. Start paying attention to that inner voice, and when you catch yourself putting yourself down, change it to something positive, such as, "Everyone makes mistakes and I know I will do better and I am a good and capable person."

5. Challenge yourself to overcome little or big fears. Fear public speaking? Enroll in a course that helps train you to be a better public speaker. You can choose a smaller fear to start with. Every time you overcome a fear, small or large, you gain more confidence.

HOW TO TOLERATE OTHERS

If you want friends, want to keep your friendships and relationships, wanna be more likable and fun to be around; it's a case of being tolerant. Here are five easy steps to guide you in becoming a more tolerant person.

HOW TO TOLERATE PEOPLE

1. Think about why you have been judgmental towards people in the past: Had you been taught that you were superior to certain people? Or have you have negative experiences? Diagnose why you have been so quick to judge people around you.

2. Think of those around you as PEOPLE; They are human beings just like you and I. They also want to be loved and accepted for who they are. Everyone should be allowed to be who they are without being harassed for it. This brings us to our next point.

3. Realize they are lots of intolerant people in this world: Plenty to be prejudiced toward that group, and to hate them or fear them. If these people you are judging are homosexual, of a certain race or religion, or something else entirely, they already have an enormous amount of people who despise them already and remind them every day of the fact that they are different. That would make you an unnecessary addition.

4. Be a part of the solution: Be the one to truly love people for who they are. Make people comfortable around you, and allow them to be themselves with you. You will gain a lot of friends, and gain respect from the friends you already have.

5. Stand up for others! Don't allow people to be negatively treated around you, don't allow negative joking about the personality they have or the groups they belong to. Encourage your new found tolerance with everyone around you.