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Images From PEARL DAZZLE
Hey everyone, hope you all are doing fine?? So, this post is gonna take us away from the main theme of this blog, but then, we all need a diversion once in a while, right?
Pearl Dazzle is my tumblr account, it's all about creativity, fashion and photography. At times though, I ship in some little articles. It's also a blog too...I started it before Crystal Clear. :)
Here are some images from Pearl Dazzle, enjoy! :D
Please note:
Not all these pictures were actually designed by me. Some are, some aren't. However, all were featured in Pearl Dazzle at one point or the other.
To view the full blog of Pearl Dazzle, go to prynulhurve.tumblr.com
Thanks and Bless Y'All :)
MzRynu
Pearl Dazzle is my tumblr account, it's all about creativity, fashion and photography. At times though, I ship in some little articles. It's also a blog too...I started it before Crystal Clear. :)
Here are some images from Pearl Dazzle, enjoy! :D
Please note:
Not all these pictures were actually designed by me. Some are, some aren't. However, all were featured in Pearl Dazzle at one point or the other.
To view the full blog of Pearl Dazzle, go to prynulhurve.tumblr.com
Thanks and Bless Y'All :)
MzRynu
HOW TO OVERCOME SHYNESS
Kate found the wedding invitation skulking on her doormat like some malignant portent of doom. Crippling shyness meant that what she should enjoy, the chance to mingle with friends and meet new people, felt like an ordeal devised by an overly sadistic Spanish Inquisitor.
“I’ve always been shy! I hate the feeling of people’s attention suddenly turning on me!” Despairingly, she told me she’d reached a point in her life where she wanted to stop worrying what others might think so she could meet new people and openly voice her ideas.
Her shyness was typical: Fear of meeting new people, lack of self-confidence, self-consciousness, and feeling by turns ‘invisible’ or all too visible. But she now reckons she has got rid of 95% of her shyness.
So, to kick us off on this very common issue, let's go with the tips.
Tip 1 – Focus outwards, away from your shyness
Shyness makes us self-absorbed. This is descriptive, not judgemental. Shy people can feel they have ’nothing to say‘, that they should have amazing stories to tell and be the life and soul of the party. But consider this:
People love you when you find them interesting. Overcoming shyness isn’t about suddenly thinking you’re great. It’s more about forgetting yourself and focusing outward.
Ask questions and cultivate genuine curiosity. If you are at a party with strangers, try to connect how everyone knows each other. You can ask questions such as: “How do you know Kathy?” (if Kathy is throwing the party J) or: “I live next door. Are you one of Kathy’s tennis friends?” This:
- Gives you something to talk about.
- Gives other people a chance to talk about themselves (for which they will love you).
- Takes your attention off yourself.
Tip 2 – Prepare properly
Once shyness has gone you won’t need to do this; but whilst you still feel shy, practice preparing topics of conversation. If you have an idea of the type of people that are going to be at a gathering, then do a little homework. If many of them are sailing enthusiasts, for instance: Google the local sailing club, find out local sailing routes, prepare a few questions to ask about sailing.
If you feel shy at work, look out for interesting news items over the weekend and bring them into conversation on Monday.
Get into the habit of remembering what people have told you and referring back to it as future conversation starters: “Hey John, you know you were saying you wanted to see that film? Well I saw last night that it’s now playing at The Nomoorshyness Cinema!” or: “Jane, you were telling me that your daughter loves the circus; apparently there is a circus coming to town next week…”
But overcoming shyness isn’t just about talking more
Tip 3 – Send the right signals
Shy people are often misdiagnosed as unfriendly, aloof, or ’stuck up’. Shyness can make us look unapproachable.
Research has found that we find people who smile and look directly at us more attractive (1). And people are 86% more likely to strike up conversations with strangers in the street if they are smiling.
Another benefit is that smiling even when you don’t feel like it actually makes you feel better – which can lead to real smiling. 
An important point here: If you smile at someone and they don’t smile back, that is not your problem. We can’t make anyone accept our friendliness any more that we can make someone like us through sheer force.
Tip 4 – Focus on putting other people at their ease
Working as a hypnotherapist I’ve seen so many clients who suffered from arachnophobia – fear of spiders. The trouble was, I had a fear of spiders myself! But rather than working on myself directly, I found that working to lift otherpeople’s fear magically lifted my own.
The point here is that by focusing on putting other people at their ease, you’ll find that you feel much more comfortable. Notice who seems a little more diffident or anxious and work to help them feel more relaxed.
Tip 5 – Learn to manage anxiety
Shyness is really a type of social anxiety. Manage your anxiety by:
- Making your out-breath longer than your in-breath. Extending the out-breath begins to relax body and mind very quickly. Once you feel more relaxed, you instantly feel more sociable.
- Rehearse being confident. Mentally rehearsing being more outgoing and relaxed has amazing results. Lie down somewhere comfortable, focus on breathing deeply and slowly, and imagine watching yourself in the upcoming social situation looking relaxed, comfortable, and even talkative. You’ll be amazed how this ’self-hypnotic‘ preparation will affect the way you actually feel when you get there.
Bonus Tip!
And lastly, start to ’wear out‘ shyness by putting yourself in as many social situations as possible. We build fear around what we avoid; so by purposefully seeking out situations which would have made you feel shy, you can begin to kick that shyness out of your life.
Since overcoming shyness, Kate has discovered whole new dimensions to her life.
HOW TO BECOME MORE SELF CONFIDENT
Many people lack self-confidence and that can have a negative effect on a person's business and social life. There are many theories about why some people are more confident than others. It may may have to do in part with early conditioning and in part with natural personality. If you are low on self-confidence, an important thing to understand is that you can develop more self-confidence.
2. Dress better. This doesn't mean dressing up at home when you do not feel like dressing up, but taking some extra time to dress better and make sure you are well-groomed will make you feel more confident. Consider how you feel when going out in sloppy clothes versus how you feel when you know you look good. It is that simple.
3. Set small, step by step goals. When you break tasks into smaller steps, they doesn't seem as overwhelming, and each time you reach one of the goals, your confidence may grow. This applies to small day to day matters as well as to larger situations and goals, such as building a career.
4.
Change your internal monologue. The internal monologue is that inner voice in our thoughts that tells us how we are or who we are. "What an idiot. I can't believe I just did that" is an example of a typical negative statement. Start paying attention to that inner voice, and when you catch yourself putting yourself down, change it to something positive, such as, "Everyone makes mistakes and I know I will do better and I am a good and capable person."
5. Challenge yourself to overcome little or big fears. Fear public speaking? Enroll in a course that helps train you to be a better public speaker. You can choose a smaller fear to start with. Every time you overcome a fear, small or large, you gain more confidence.
HOW TO BECOME MORE SELF CONFIDENT
1. Stand up straight. Although it sounds like a very simple thing, good posture alerts the body that things are okay and that you are confident. Others picking up on this visual clue may treat you better as well.2. Dress better. This doesn't mean dressing up at home when you do not feel like dressing up, but taking some extra time to dress better and make sure you are well-groomed will make you feel more confident. Consider how you feel when going out in sloppy clothes versus how you feel when you know you look good. It is that simple.
3. Set small, step by step goals. When you break tasks into smaller steps, they doesn't seem as overwhelming, and each time you reach one of the goals, your confidence may grow. This applies to small day to day matters as well as to larger situations and goals, such as building a career.
5. Challenge yourself to overcome little or big fears. Fear public speaking? Enroll in a course that helps train you to be a better public speaker. You can choose a smaller fear to start with. Every time you overcome a fear, small or large, you gain more confidence.
HOW TO TOLERATE OTHERS
If you want friends, want to keep your friendships and relationships, wanna be more likable and fun to be around; it's a case of being tolerant. Here are five easy steps to guide you in becoming a more tolerant person.
HOW TO TOLERATE PEOPLE
1. Think about why you have been judgmental towards people in the past: Had you been taught that you were superior to certain people? Or have you have negative experiences? Diagnose why you have been so quick to judge people around you.
2. Think of those around you as PEOPLE; They are human beings just like you and I. They also want to be loved and accepted for who they are. Everyone should be allowed to be who they are without being harassed for it. This brings us to our next point.
3. Realize they are lots of intolerant people in this world: Plenty to be prejudiced toward that group, and to hate them or fear them. If these people you are judging are homosexual, of a certain race or religion, or something else entirely, they already have an enormous amount of people who despise them already and remind them every day of the fact that they are different. That would make you an unnecessary addition.
4. Be a part of the solution: Be the one to truly love people for who they are. Make people comfortable around you, and allow them to be themselves with you. You will gain a lot of friends, and gain respect from the friends you already have.
5. Stand up for others! Don't allow people to be negatively treated around you, don't allow negative joking about the personality they have or the groups they belong to. Encourage your new found tolerance with everyone around you.
2. Think of those around you as PEOPLE; They are human beings just like you and I. They also want to be loved and accepted for who they are. Everyone should be allowed to be who they are without being harassed for it. This brings us to our next point.
3. Realize they are lots of intolerant people in this world: Plenty to be prejudiced toward that group, and to hate them or fear them. If these people you are judging are homosexual, of a certain race or religion, or something else entirely, they already have an enormous amount of people who despise them already and remind them every day of the fact that they are different. That would make you an unnecessary addition.
4. Be a part of the solution: Be the one to truly love people for who they are. Make people comfortable around you, and allow them to be themselves with you. You will gain a lot of friends, and gain respect from the friends you already have.
5. Stand up for others! Don't allow people to be negatively treated around you, don't allow negative joking about the personality they have or the groups they belong to. Encourage your new found tolerance with everyone around you.
Thursday, 6 September 2012
HOW TO GAIN FOLLOWERS ON TWITTER.
One of the most commonly used social network, Twitter is gradually taking over the lives of people and constantly dividing their attention from school, work and family. But then, you can't blame them; it is definitely wonderful1 If you aren't on it, you should join right now.
For those of you already active members, this is for you (and those to join too).
HOW TO GAIN FOLLOWERS IN 10 SIMPLE WAYS
For those of you already active members, this is for you (and those to join too).
HOW TO GAIN FOLLOWERS IN 10 SIMPLE WAYS
- Explain to your followers what retweeting is and encourage them to retweet your links. Retweeting pushes your @username into foreign social graphs, resulting in clicks back to your profile. Track your retweets using retweetist.
- Fill out your bio. Your latest tweets and @replies don’t mean much to someone that doesn’t know you. Your bio is the only place you have to tell people who you are. Also, your bio is displayed on Twitter’s Suggested Users page. Leaving it blank or non-descriptive doesn’t encourage people to add you.
- As @garyvee says, “link it up.” Put links to your Twitter profile everywhere. Link it on your Digg, LinkedIn, Facebook, blog, email signature, and everywhere else you live online. Also, check out the great feedburner-like badges from TwitterCounter for your blog.
- Tweet about your passions in life and #hash tag them. Quality content coupled with an easy way to find it never fails. If others enjoy your content, they’ll add you. Learn more about #hash tagging here
- Bring your twitter account into the physical world. Promote it everywhere you go to everyone you are with.
- Take pictures and upload. Pictures are heavily spread and retweeted which promotes you. For iPhone users, use apps like Tweetie; for laptop/desktop users, use apps like Tweetdeck and for BB users, use apps like Ubersocial.
- Follow top twitter users and pay close attention to their style of tweeting.
- Get involved in trending topics and hastag memes. This will promote you.
- Get shoutouts and give also.
- Track your followers lists using apps like Qwitter and TwitterCounter.
Really hope this helps; follow me on Twitter :Ms_Prynu
Love,
MzRynu
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The blog will officially kick off at 8:00p.m Saturday 8th of September, 2012.
Welcome to the blog where you will find the clearest truth: CRYSTAL CLEAR.
With soo much love
MzRynu
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Oh my! I didn't introduce myself; I'm Praise and I'll be your blogger here. Hey, call me Rynu, I prefer that. I hope we have soo much fun together.
If for any reason, you have any comment about a particular article, do feel free to post it and I'll try as much as possible to reply them all. :)
Feel free to e-mail me on praizydarl@gmail.com and follow me on Twitter @Ms_Prynu. If you would like to be an admin, please e-mail me.
The blog will officially kick off at 8:00p.m Saturday 8th of September, 2012.
Welcome to the blog where you will find the clearest truth: CRYSTAL CLEAR.
With soo much love
MzRynu
praizydarl@gmail.com; praizydarl@ymail.com
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